There are cheerios under my desk. In fact,
if I roll my chair
in any direction, I
leave what would
appear to the
untrained eye to be
little piles of
brown sawdust. My
carefully selected
work clothes for the
day, are a red shirt
with little brown
Teddy bears across
the front, and black
and white
zebra-striped fuzzy
pants...the kind of
pants you'd never
want to be seen in
by anyone...except
maybe your lifetime
partner. (And then,
only if you both
were given a
matching set by a
favorite
grandparent!)
You'd never guess
by this attractive
ensemble, that I am
in fact, working. By
work I do not mean
being a Mom, because
while that is the
world's most
important, (and
thankless!) job ,
that sort-of just
goes without saying.
I am in actual fact,
AT work. You know,
the kind of work
that brings-in that
"greenstuff"- for
food, Veggie Tales
Sing Along CDs (or
zebra striped PJ's!)...
I love working
from home. It's a
choice I made when
my first child was
born, and it's a
commitment I stand
by. I want to be at
home with my kids
until they are old
enough to go to
school, and even
then, I would like
to be at home when
they come in the
front door at the
end of each day,
full of stories and
things to share.
There is nothing
like being there for
your child's most
important moments.
Having to hear the
recount of an event
from your
babysitter/day care
provider, can cause
you to spend the
rest of the night
wishing you could
have experienced it
for yourself, and
questioning your
decision to work
outside the home.
While the economy
seems to have made
double incomes a
requirement, there
is a major flux of
women choosing work
at home careers, as
a way to be
available to their
family, and ALSO
make some additional
income.
The rewards of
working from home
are being discovered
worldwide. In fact,
many large
corporations are
realizing the value
in telecommuting
positions, and this
wave of acceptance
is allowing the
stay-at-home mom
many more options
for work at home
careers. Envelope
stuffing, or MLM
companies are no
longer the complete
list of
possibilities. Jobs
can range from
assembling crafts,
to owning your own
business, to being a
virtual personal
assistant!
There are,
however, challenges
specific to a
work-at home mom's
situation, and if
this is an option
you are seriously
considering, here
are 7 tips to help
you avoid the same
pitfalls I
encountered at the
start of my
work-at-home
"career".
Pitfall #1: " The
longest day in
history"
This is what
happens when a
mother works from
home, but hasn't set
any specific work
hours. While most
telecommute
positions do offer
very flexible hours,
it's important to
work out a specific
work-day. You can
fit it in wherever
you would feel most
productive. Does
your little one
watch a morning
cartoon? Are Barney
and Big Bird regular
visitors to your
living room? Set-up
your office area, in
such a way that you
can keep an eye on
your little one, but
not right next to
the TV...after all,
I'm sure that
account exec you
have on the phone,
already knows his
ABC's! Does your
child still take a
nap? This is a great
chance to be
productive, in a
quiet house. I
recommend doing any
of your business
calls during this
time.
Pitfall #2 :
"Superwoman
Syndrome"
I'm not sure who
passed this pamphlet
out to women
worldwide, but I am
here to tell you
there was a
MISPRINT! It was not
supposed to read:
"Women must do
everything to
perfection, without
receiving any help
of any kind from
partners/husbands/parents/friends."
I have it on good
authority, that it
was supposed to
read:" Women can do
anything to
perfection, but it's
done BEST with the
help of
partners/husbands/parents/friends."
It is unreasonable
to expect yourself
to maintain the same
workload, in
ADDITION to a work
at home job!
The thing about
working from home,
is that it's easy to
undervalue the work.
Just because you
don't commute, and
you are doing your
work in your PJ's,
doesn't mean you
aren't working! Be
sure to re-evaluate
your total
responsibilities,
and ask for help
sometimes. If you're
a single mom,
"burnout" is a real
possibility if you
don't take some time
off for yourself.
Take advantage of a
"naptime" every now
and then, to just
spend time doing
something you
enjoy-take a hot
bath, watch a
favorite show, do
something creative
or even catch a
quick snooze!
Pitfall#3: "Tug
of War"
Picture this:
You're sitting at
your desk in an
office somewhere,
and every 60 seconds
or so, the phone
rings, and you are
interrupted by
something or someone
at your home in need
of your help or
input. It would be a
challenge just to
KEEP that job, let
alone be SUCCESSFUL!
Anytime there is a
change in the way a
home is managed,
everybody needs to
adjust. This
includes the
children! If your
kids are old enough
to understand :
"worktime", then ask
them to help you by
respecting that
time, and keeping
things
quiet....explain
that you are there
for them, if
something important
comes up, but if
they can sort-it-out
themselves, that
would be great! If
you have a toddler
like I do, reasoning
is....ummm...well, a
waste of energy! I
suggest either
keeping your
non-phone work to
the times he/she is
up and being active,
and save any
professional phone
conversations for
when he/she is
sleeping, or having
"quiet time" in
their room. The
other alternative,
is to hire a
"mother's
helper"-usually,
this is someone too
young to be left
completely on their
own, but old enough
not to have to mind
every minute of the
day. This is most
easily accomplished
during the summer,
since school hours
make it hard to
coordinate a
schedule. Another
option, is to join
(or start!) a
babysitting co-op.
This way, if you
arrange one day of a
babysitting swap per
week, then you will
have one whole day
to do anything you
need to-housework,
office work, an
outing just for
Mom...Then, on the
day when you are
watching the other
Mom's child, you can
have extra quality
playtime with your
little one! This
set-up is a good way
to avoid babysitting
charges, to help
your little one
develop great social
skills, and to
provide you with an
essential "break".
Pitfall#4:
"Pennies a Day"
When is the last
time you went to an
interview at a
company's office,
and after they said
they'd love to have
you on board, they
asked you for
money!?
This pitfall is
especially tricky.
Whether you are
working for
yourself, or for a
company, it is
important to
remember that your
time is valuable,
and compensation is
not optional! This
may seem strange,
but you'd be
surprised how easy
it is to work for
pennies a day!
Remember: Be very
leery of any "jobs"
wanting you to buy
something, or asking
for a fee to join.
There are legitimate
training courses,
where you are then
certified in that
particular work, but
I would research it
very carefully
before investing any
money in it. Be sure
to set a financial
goal, and pay
attention to how
much time you are
putting in, versus
the financial
reimbursement. The
best situation, is
to work for a
company that offers
a weekly or
bi-weekly base pay,
plus commission.
This allows you to
budget your
household, and
provides you with a
chance to earn what
you're worth!
Pitfall #5: "EARN
THOUSANDS A
WEEK-STARTING
TODAY!"
If you see this
ad, run as fast as
you can, IN THE
OTHER DIRECTION!
Anything in life
needs a good chance
to get started-to
grow and flourish.
The same truth
applies to your own
business, or a
work-at-home
business. Give
yourself, and/or
your carefully
selected career an
opportunity to grow.
Especially if you
are working strictly
on commission at
first, allow
yourself 3 to 6
months to build
clientele, and
figure-out which
work schedule works
best for you and
your family. If you
are having trouble
getting started, I
recommend joining a
discussion list for
work at home
moms-they have
probably been
through it before,
and can offer you
valuable insight and
information. Most of
all, be patient with
yourself. Think of
it as a "gestation"
period!
Pitfall #6:
"Write it off Baby!"
One of the great
things about working
from home, is that
many of your
household bills,
such as phone,
electricity, heat,
and sometimes even
rent, can at least
in part be claimed
as a business
expense! If you make
a run to your
nearest office
supply store, to
pick-up a printer
cartridge and some
pens, those are
business expenses!
Be sure to save the
receipts! I have one
of those large brown
envelopes tacked to
my message
board-whenever I
pick up anything
that will be used,
(even in part!), for
my business, I stick
it in that envelope!
The H&R Block agents
duck when they see
me coming, but you'd
be surprised at the
difference it can
make! This also
includes things like
lunches with
clients, gas money
for any long trips
to meetings, even
necessary business
attire. If you spend
household money on
your business, you
are entitled to
compensation!
Pitfall #7: "Who
ARE you?"
It is easier than
you could imagine,
to lose yourself
within the walls of
your home and home
office. When
everything you are
doing is within a
couple thousand
square feet, it's so
easy to forget there
is a whole world
outside! Remember to
get-out, and have
some kind of social
life. I would
suggest that you get
out once in awhile
on your own-without
the kids, or your
partner. Do
something that feeds
your soul and
inspires you to keep
moving forward.
Something that will
make you feel
powerful, and
competent. After
all-you ARE!
Working from home
is a challenging,
but very worthwhile
decision. I wish you
all the best as you
pursue your dreams,
and accomplish what
so many others only
aspire to! I hope
the above "Pitfalls"
were of help to you,
and that you feel
encouraged to
SUCCEED!
Here's to
Motherhood and your
Success!
Marcie A. Downing